If your objective is to have a romantic long-term relationship with someone, you’ll need to know exactly how to connect with him or her on three levels so it has the potential to go somewhere.
When you understand the precise connections between the heart, mind and body and how they work together, you’ll be able to determine what type of relationship you want with the different people you meet.
And once in a relationship, this information will help you figure out whether or not the relationship has the potential to go somewhere.
YOUR FOUR UNIQUE CONNECTIONS TO MEN
◊ Your heart and mind
If you and your partner connect through each other’s heart and mind, you’ve probably found someone you absolutely love and adore. The two of you can talk for hours but when it comes to sexual chemistry, the spark is missing or flat.
This combination creates a lasting friendship with a great person long after the date has ended. They’re perfect for taking to a wedding or an event that you don’t want to attend on your own. Or they’re the one you take to the latest movie you want to see. Either way, this type of relationship is usually laid-back and easy.
◊ Your mind and body
The mixture of your mind plus a physical connection with your partner creates a “friends with benefits” relationship. This combination suits you on the days you want fantastic mental and physical stimulation. There is no heart involved here.
In fact, after having mind-blowing sex, the two of you could easily get out of bed and go back to doing your own thing with no after-sex glow and cuddling. Your intellectual thoughts and bodies stimulate each other but love doesn’t exist between the two of you.
This relationship is fun – but use caution: often, it’s the woman who gets hurt in this type of connection.
◊ Your heart and body
Have you ever met someone where your heart opens, the sparks fly and you find yourself almost instantaneously in love?
It feels like all you want to do is spend the day in bed, feeling the love that abundantly spills between the two of you. This is chemistry – an Oxytocin high – and it’s a connection you’ll have with someone through your heart and your body.
It’s powerful. It’s strong. And it rarely gets you anywhere because there is no friendship beneath it. You don’t have a mind connection so when the intensity of sex fades … so does the relationship.
I had this type of connection with my second husband. We had tremendous chemistry and we quickly fell so crazy in love that we were engaged within 3 months. It was a whirlwind relationship that ended almost 2 years to the day we married. I could have saved myself a lot of heartache if I’d had this knowledge back then.
If you find yourself intensely attracted to someone this way, RUN before you get too connected. There is such a thing as too much chemistry.
◊ Your heart, mind, and body
This combination of the heart, mind, and body has the potential for taking a relationship all the way. It doesn’t mean it will always work out, but it is a signal to move ahead if this is what you want.
These four combinations will also give you the key to figuring out why your relationships didn’t work in the past. When you look back at the different loves in your life, can you now understand what went wrong and which of the three connections – heart, mind, or body – might have been missing that kept the relationship from working the way you wanted it to?
In your present and future relationships, can you see how understanding these combinations can help you quickly assess your relationship potential with anyone you date? You’ll be able to figure out exactly how someone will fit in your life just by using this invaluable key.